Some things simply are what they are and cannot be changed by anything that you do or say.  You can jump up and down, scream, curse, wish and nothing.  Worry, stress, anger, pain, trying to resist something, that is already happening and is totally out of your realm of control.  Carrying on in such a way is a bad habit, that’s doing nothing more than getting you into a state of panic and stress.  It upsets the people who are around you and while in this state, just think what wonderful things you could really be missing.  What’s the point of saying “No”, if it is what it is?  These words were written by the famous self help evangelist Ekhart Tolle.

 It is what it is

Eckhart Tolle: He explains the meaning to this phrase as such:

Think of the last time you were in a traffic jam; you felt stressed because you needed to be at “X” place, but you weren’t moving. However, the same spaciousness that is easy to become aware of when you’re contemplating nature, for example, surrounds even this event which we call a “traffic jam”.  You find the spaciousness surrounding any event simply by allowing that moment to be. Say “yes” to anything that happens, instead of fighting or resisting what is. What’s the point of saying “no”, if it is what it is? Simply tell yourself, “It is what it is”. When you do this you become aware of a dimension that is deeper than the event that’s taking place.

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What is the point of resisting something you cannot change?

If you’re stressing out you’re not enjoying the moment that you are currently living.  If your with someone else for example in the traffic jam, instead of enjoying a conversation, or discussing a work topic, catching up on how there day was or exchanging a funny story, all you are thinking about is the stressful situation of the traffic and it’s something that is unchangeable, so why worry about it.

A testing week – Your reaction to the incident determines your mood. It’s your choice how you react

I had a testing week, last week with obstacles thrown in my path, that on some occasions, would of made me see red.  My bank  got hacked, and put a couple of hundred dollars into limbo while waiting to get it sorted. I did really need the money, but there was nothing that could be done, so I’d just have to work something else out.  There was nothing anyone could do, so no point in trying to change the situation in any way. It is what it is.  (I’m guessing that the person that hacked my blog, perhaps had something to do with this, however at this stage I have no idea how they were able to do it, seeing I only used Internet banking through my secure Australian bank. For purchases online I use PayPal, which should also be secure, so I’m really stumped. When my blog was hacked, there was no indication of my home computer being hacked, and even if it was, I have no banking records, other than receipts, which I thought were not enough to let someone in France use to buy a pair of jeans.  Will keep you updated.

Live by the motto Don’t Worry

I have only really started living by the motto, Don’t worry, and It is what it is, in the past couple of years. I was never a hot head, but I am very persistent.  At times, when I was younger, I did get head up over things I had no control over.  Getting stressed and flustered in the situation, using the situation as an alibi and an excuse for the consequences that happened because of it.  Still sounds like an excuse, doesn’t it?  Let me explain, your running late for work and the smallest bit of traffic, makes you a couple of minutes later.  You begin blaming the traffic for your overall lateness, getting upset and stressed, when all along it’s your fault. You should of been ready on time. Giving yourself a few minutes extra  for traffic, this is 2012. See what I mean.

Next time, when stuck in traffic, if on your own you could have flicked on the stereo and listened to some great music, a podcast or some talk back radio.  Made some notes on your recorder regarding your next blog post. Productively using the moment or enjoying the moment, even just by starring out the window.  “By doing this you have become aware of a dimension that is deeper than the event that’s taking place”, Eckhart Tolle, has said.

Jesus said “Don’t Worry”

Another very wise man also taught repeatedly, that we should not worry.  We all know who that was right?  It was mentioned in the bible, in words to the effect of not to worry, over two hundred time.  Jesus Christ himself said in.” ~ Matthew 6:34, the Bible   “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own”.  He also said about worry doing no good for you. He reminded us that by worrying, we were not able to change a single thing. 

Bad habit of Worrying

Worry, fear and panic are emotions that are all too easy to fall into.  You can get into the bad habit of worrying.  In a routine or habitual way these emotions can be dangerous and very stifling.  Living life worrying about the things that we cannot change is a waste of time and energy.  Worry and fear have a place in our life as a warning of danger.  When a situation leads to these feelings, for example you’ve been at a party and the sober driver decides to have a couple of drinks and still insists on being ok to drive you home.  Suddenly you worry about the danger of being in a car with an over the limit driver.  The alarm bells ringing (worry), is the perfect example of why this emotion is a necessary one.

Don’t worry, it is what it is!

Don’t worry it is what it is!

So remember to tell yourself  “It is what it is”.  Don’t get your knickers in a twist as the saying goes and try and just let the moment be. In a bad situation remember, between the situation and your response, there is a space. In this space there is a decision to be made. That decision is, the way that you will react.  If you crack up, fall apart, get upset, your making it worse.  If instead, you say, ok, I’m not going to let this situation upset me. I can deal with it in the way that I choose. If I don’t get all upset, at least I will still have a happy day, as will those who are around me.

For more information on worrying:  if you’re preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem. Unrelenting doubts and fears can be paralyzing. Seek further advice, you could start with this artilce here,  from the self help guide.

What about you?

What situation have you or someone you know worried over for no reason or gone to battle over when you knew you really could do nothing about it?

Blog Challenge “Blogging while Angels Sleep” Day 70

For our blog challenge today, I’m going to encourage you, to think outside the box.  Is there a post that you’ve been wanting to write, but your worried about the way it will be perceived.  Do you hold back from showing your true personality because you worry about what people might think of you?  What about controversial topics, do you hold back from writing about them?  You won’t really know, how people will perceive topics, or a tone of voice until you use it.

The same with working out, how to earn an income from your blog.  You need to think of making, or updating for the better, something that is needed for your niche.  You need a gap in the market, and to do something different.  A solution to a problem, or a solution to a problem, that someone else may have solved, but you can solve it in a more efficient or easier way.  You need to do it differently than the rest, and you need not worry, if you will succeed or not.  Don’t worry, be persistent and take failures, as the lessons learnt on the path to success.  What is the blog challenge? read about it here.

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By Sharon